Friday Five. Get Behind It: Advice for Trying Butt Play
Take 5 minutes to learn hot tips for trying butt play in the bedroom.
Anal Plugs
Find a plug that suits you! Start with a small size—maybe get one with a tail! Have fun with it. When inserting, stay relaxed and use lube or your partner(s) saliva to ease any discomfort. It should be an enjoyable experience, so if you’re in pain, go slow and work your way up to full insertion.
2. Fisting
“Our hands are our best sex toys, yet they are often overlooked completely or seen as reserved exclusively for foreplay.”
— Queer Porn Performer Andre Shakti
Our main tip is to ensure your hands are clean and well-manicured. You don’t want to leave behind dirt or chipped nail polish! Consider using gloves for protection if your nails are long.
3. Pegging
Pegging is the act of a non-penis owner anally penetrating someone, an opportunity to explore new facets of pleasure.
“Pegging invites and embraces the idea that masculinity is not tied to being a penetrator. When we embrace our heterosexual, cis-male partners and their pegging fantasies, we’re encouraging them to explore their sexuality while supporting their masculinity in non-toxic ways.”
— A Comprehensive Guide To Pegging: How To Ask + Techniques
Bringing this up can feel awkward. Here are some open-ended questions from the previous article that you can ask your partner if it’s something you’re interested in.
How do you feel about anal sex and anal play?
Is anal play something you enjoy on your own during masturbation?
What do you know about pegging?
How comfortable are you penetrating me/being penetrated by me?
Is this something we can talk about and consider trying when we’re both ready to consent?
4. Spanking
Spanking sometimes happens naturally during sex, but your partner won’t know that rough play is something you like until you tell them! Being direct is the only way to get on the same page about what you want from your sexual experiences. We suggest establishing a safe word with your partner(s) when engaging in rough sex.
5. Stay Curious
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