Friday Five: Exploring Sexual Taboos
Have you ever wondered why certain topics related to sexuality are approached with such silence and secrecy?
We invite you to challenge taboos and initiate conversations that foster a more honest and liberated relationship to sex and sexuality.
Keep reading to 5 common sexual taboos and how we can learn and discuss them to release the shame around them.
1. Forbidden Pleasure
Masturbation, a natural and healthy action, has long been stigmatized as something shameful or even sinful.
To our collective misfortune, in many cultures and societies due to a combination of factors including religious beliefs, conservative social norms, and lack of adequate sex education, masturbation is drenched in taboo.
However, it is beneficial to understand that it is a normal part of human sexuality and can be a way of self-exploration and self-knowledge.
"Masturbation isn’t a sin, it isn’t a taboo subject, almost everyone (if not everyone) will try it and it is extremly good for our health, that's a fact!".
― The Jamange line
2. Demystifying Sexuality in Aging
The taboo surrounding aging and sexuality manifests itself through the denial of sexuality in the elderly, which means that this taboo is characterized by a lack of open and honest discussion about sexuality during aging and the erroneous idea that it diminishes or disappears with age.
This perception, apart from limiting the sexual activity of the elderly, leads to a lack of sexual education for this demographic group and to the underestimation of their needs and their most intimate desires.
3. Beyond the Conventional
Exploring our fantasies and fetishes is a natural part of human sexual expression. However, many people are embarrassed or afraid to talk openly about their sexual preferences or inclinations for fear of being perceived as weird or different from the “norm”.
It is important to understand that, as long as sexual exploration is practiced in a safe and consensual manner, our sexual preferences are valid and deserve respect.
My Sex Bio provides a judgment-free space for open discussions on diverse sexual preferences. Join us in our winter Book Club to discover the beauty of sexual diversity and become part of this inclusive experience.
“Fetish is the exploration of sex as art, and the refinement of one's personal desires. Anything can be fetishised...There'll be new fetishes forever. I feel that the 21st century is all about fetish.”
― Rick Castro
4. Overcoming Inequality
Certainly, female pleasure has been minimized or ignored in conversations about sexuality. The lack of education may contribute to a lack of understanding about how the female body and female sexual pleasure work.
Women who actively seek their own sexual pleasure are perceived as "promiscuous" or "immoral" when IN FACT, they should be seen as empowered and confident. This social disapproval can lead to repression of sexual desire and denial of one's own sexual needs and desires.
Fully enjoy your freedom to find your own pleasure. <3
5. First Date S€x
We don’t know who started the “no sex on a first date” “rule”. But this is so outdated. Rooted in harmful social expectations that promote the idea that premature sex can damage relationships or the reputation of the individuals involved, this perspective stigmatizes individual experiences.
Hear this loud and clear: The health of a relationship or the perception of a person has no correlation to the timing of sex.
What matters is that you are following your needs and desires and ensuring that enthusiastic consent is always in play before engaging in sexual acts. …be that on the first, second, or hundredth date.
“It’s much better for two people to sleep with each other as soon as they are both comfortable and have established mutual attraction. Not on the basis of a social convention, rule, or fear of being labeled ‘easy’ or otherwise.”
― Sasha Daygame, international Dating Coach
We know these are just some of the many taboos out there, but stick around, we’ll keep working to address them. We’d love to hear if there are topics you’d like us to cover. Just send us an email to questions@mysexbio.org or DM us on social.
Together, by addressing taboo topics more openly and honestly, we can normalize experiences considered out of the ordinary or inappropriate. Let’s promote a more inclusive and respectful society.
This is an invitation to explore your sexuality freely and without judgment. <3
