Friday Five: 5 Tips for Trying Something New in the Bedroom
New Year, new me? Let’s say… “new year, new adventures🔥”
Ready to spice things up in the bedroom? Exploring something new with your partner can be an exciting way to deepen intimacy and keep things fresh. But let’s be real—it can also feel a little nerve-wracking! Whether it’s trying a new toy, roleplay, or something kinkier, preparation is key to making the experience enjoyable and safe for everyone involved.
Here are five essential things to consider before diving into new territory.
1. Start with a Conversation, Not the Bedroom 🗣️
Before trying anything new, start by having an open and honest conversation with your partner. Discuss what excites you about the idea and ask about their feelings or boundaries. Use tools like a Yes/No/Maybe list to explore possibilities together without pressure.
Actionable Tip: Schedule time for this talk in a neutral space, like over coffee or during a relaxed evening, to keep things casual and pressure-free.
2. Do a Little Homework 📚
Whether you’re considering a new position, toy, or kink, take time to learn about it. Look for expert advice, instructional videos, or reviews of products. This ensures you’re prepared and makes the experience more enjoyable.
Actionable Tip: Read articles or watch tutorials that offer tips and emphasize safety. If using toys, check for body-safe materials and cleaning guidelines.
3. Set the Mood and the Boundaries 🌙
A great experience begins with a comfortable setting and clear communication. Adjust the lighting, play music, and use aromatherapy to set a relaxed vibe. Discuss boundaries ahead of time, so everyone feels secure and respected.
Actionable Tip: Create a "preparation checklist" for mood essentials—soft lighting, clean sheets, and a playlist you both love.
4. Have a Safe Word (and Use It!) 🚦
Safe words provide a simple and effective way to communicate during play. Choose a word like "yellow" to pause or "red" to stop, ensuring everyone feels in control. Practice using it in a non-sexual context to build familiarity.
Actionable Tip: Create a signal system if verbal communication might be difficult, such as tapping twice for "pause."
5. Reflect and Adjust Together ✨
After trying something new, take time to talk about the experience. Ask each other what felt good, what could improve, and whether you’d like to try it again. Reflection helps deepen intimacy and build trust.
Actionable Tip: Make it a habit to schedule these check-ins, even after experiences that went well. Positive feedback is just as important as constructive notes.
Remember, trying something new in the bedroom is all about connection, trust, and having fun.
Take your time, communicate openly, and don’t forget to laugh along the way—intimacy thrives when everyone feels safe and excited to explore together!
