5 Tips to Buy Your First Sex Toy

Jul 20

Buying your first ever sex toy can feel intimidating, especially with the endless options out there. Here is a simple guide to ease into it.

1. Consider exploring masturbating with your hands as a starting point.

This can give you insights into the types of stimulation you enjoy most and help you choose a sex toy that fits your liking.

If you own a vulva, try using two fingers, make small circling motions on your clit and down your vulva. Once you feel wet—and if you don’t, that’s okay, get some lube—try inserting as many fingers as feels comfortable. You might enjoy it or not—and this might mean you would want (or not) to get toys for penetration.

If you are a penis owner, try exploring with different types of strokes and speeds. Playing with gentle vs. rough and with your whole hand vs. some fingers can also help figure out what kind of toy you should go for.

2. Decide What Kind of Toy You Want

Are you looking for clitoral stimulation, penetration, anal play or intense vibrations? Do you want a toy to use on your own or with others? Are you going for a more natural or realistic feel, or do you want something spicier?

3. Start Simple

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, start with something simple and inexpensive! Like the Evolved Bullet Wand, a straightforward shape with 9 vibrating functions and for only $30! You can’t go wrong.

And if you’re looking for penile stimulation, you might want to look into the different types of fleshlights, strokers or other masturbation sleeves.

4. Read Reviews

There are so many sex bloggers out there sharing reviews like Miss Ruby Reviews or Adam Rouge. Their blogs have an entire library of resources and reviews of various sex toys. You don’t need to try them all yourself ;-)

5. Buy the Right Material

Because these toys will have contact with your sex organs, you want to ensure that you’re using body-safe and high-quality materials. According to Lisa Hochberger, LMSW and MEd, non-porous materials are your best bet since they’re less likely to trap bacteria, making them easier to clean and disinfect. Non-porous materials include:

Metal
Borosilicate glass
ABS Hard Plastic
Pure Silicone
Stainless Steel
Ceramic
Properly coated wood

Now you’re ready to start exploring and trying new things, own it 💪

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