Friday Five: Intersecting Sexuality and Literature
It’s a common feeling that the world is going too fast. Maybe you’ve felt similarly? Does the news sometimes come too quickly to keep up with? Is your brain feeling tired of it all? Something a lot of people find useful in times like these is to read long-form!
Embrace the old-fashioned method of finding a book and reading to clear your mind. We know it can be difficult to find the time and energy, but we assure you these books are worth the effort. Whether you identify as a guy, a gal, or a nonbinary pal, we think you’ll find something for you below.
Here are 5 books about female sexuality that will help you understand yourself and others!
1. Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.
In this groundbreaking book, which combines scientific research and personal advice, sex educator Emily Nagoski breaks open long-held beliefs and cultural assumptions on female sexuality.
The major theme is understanding that every woman experiences her sexuality differently and what may work for one may not work for all. While women are often expected to respond in a specific way to various stimuli, there are actually no written-in-stone rules!
From the “no-so-basic” basics, to exercises, to real life stories from women, Come as You Are is a book you won’t regret reading.
2. She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner, Ph.D.
"She Comes First is quite simply the best guide to oral sex out there."
— AskMen.com
Starting from the belief that oral sex is not “just foreplay”, sex educator Ian Kerner writes this guide on how to pleasure a vulva or clitoris. Informative and fun, this book brings up “tried-and-true” techniques on cunnilingus for anyone who may want help with it.
3. Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
Domesticity and sexual desire…what a combination, huh? Couples therapist Esther Perel applies her years of experience to offer provocative new ways to take on intimacy and sex.
How exciting and playful can sex in a long-term relationship get? New York Times bestselling author Perel, with her honest and straightforward book, helps readers transform the way they think about love, modern relationships, and the intricate dichotomy between domesticity and sexual desire.
4. Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by Barbara Carrellas
Sex can be sacred, and what better than sharing it with your romantic or sexual partners? In Urban Tantra, Carrellas brings ancient practices to modern adventurers. This includes practices for everyone.
Whether you have one partner, many partners, or you’d rather be on your own, Carrellas details multiple practices to try out. Discover more ways to feel pleasure and connect with your sacred sexuality.
5. Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think about Abortion by Gabrielle Blair
How can responsibility for contraception be so unequal between genders? Contraception, societal expectations, pleasure… Blair combines all these topics and more in an up-to-date conversation about disparity when it comes to sexual health.
By challenging these norms Blair highlights the importance of shared responsibility regardless of gender. Furthermore, she addresses the societal costs of pregnancy, emphasizing the need for a more equitable and informed approach. Definitely a MUST read.
Have you decided which one is gonna be your upcoming read yet? 😉
