Friday Five: Slutty Costumes & Feminism
An iconic line from the infamous Regina George. However, one can reclaim being a “slut” and dress however they want all year round. We agree with SluttyGirlProblems’ definition of a slut as...
“Someone empowered in their sexuality. Someone who doesn’t feel defined by society’s sexual ‘rules,’ and instead makes the right choices for their own pleasure, relationships, and bodies.”
Keep reading for 5 slut myths, inspired by SluttyGirlProblems.
Sluts Are Doing it For Attention
This one is especially true for people who dress revealingly, and are made to feel ashamed for showing skin. When you feel empowered in your body, you don’t dress, act or do anything for anyone. Internalized patriarchy centers around the idea that people are dressing for the male gaze, or for anyone else instead for themselves and themselves only.
2. People Who Get a Lot of Action Have Loose Vaginas
Vaginas can bounce back after anything. Do not fear, there is no penis, dildo or child too big.
“Sure, the tissue becomes more relaxed before, during, and after sex. However, this ‘looseness’ is no different than your mouth opening wide to eat or yawn! No matter how many times you stretch your mouth, it always rebounds back to its original shape. The same applies to the vagina.”
— Dr. Micheal Terry, Facts And Myths About A Loose Vagina
Keep doing your kegels for strong muscles and pelvic health, and use lube.
3. Sluts Will Never Be Fulfilled
Sexual fulfillment is varying for everyone; for some it could be orgasms, for others it could be sleeping with someone they truly care about.
If you are only having sex for the pleasurable orgasm, that’s great! The big O gives big health benefits like increased happiness from endorphin release, better sleep, decreased anxiety, improved skin, healthier hair and more!
4. Sluts Will Have Sex with Anyone
Being promiscuous does not affect one’s sexual standards.
In a world with 6 billion people, you can have quantity and quality. In fact, when someone is a responsible slut, they might even have higher standards because they know exactly what pleases them; standards are objective. What matters is that we are safe, protected and empowered with every sexual experience.
5. Sluts Are Bad Feminists
Feminism supports any woman's autonomy to do what brings her power. For some folx, that is being an openly sexual being. That might not be an attractive lifestyle to someone else. Respecting others’ choices and what makes them own their vessel is how we empower one another. So put on your slutty, creative, playful costume this Halloween and own it!
