Friday Five: You’ll Want to Read This
Today’s all about male G-spot orgasms, squirting, cervical orgasms...the intense pleasures that everyone’s body has the potential to achieve, with a little practice.
Yes, it does take practice.
Keep reading for 5 tips to start experiencing explosive pleasure in the bedroom.
Be Juicy
Being aroused, wet, and relaxed allows the body to be more open to receiving. If your mind is elsewhere or you're just not that into it, your sexual organs will be clenched, tense and closed off.
Take time for foreplay, as it can take vulva owners up to 20-40 minutes to become fully aroused. Stimulate your partner's erogenous zones—areas of the body that are particularly sensitive like the lower abdomen, neck, breasts, buttocks, shoulders and lower back.
2. Play Solo
Explore the exciting pathways and pleasure potentials of your own body. Use sex toys in new ways, in the bathtub, while looking in the mirror, and even outside in a safe and comfortable place.
3. Breathe Deeply
“Breathing is foundational for anal, prostate, and pelvic floor play.”
— Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai, Pelvic PT, and certified sexuality counselor.
Especially for penis owners who might be hesitant with G-spot stimulation, take it slow and use the breath to calm the body.
One can try a simple breathing exercise of inhaling, holding, and exhaling with counts of 4-6 seconds.
4. Position Playfully
Partner sex in doggy style allows for deeper penetration, which is key to achieving cervical climax.
Cervical orgasms are the result of deep pressure or rubbing against the cervix that stimulates surrounding nerves. These nerves are distributed throughout the entire pelvis, which is why cervical orgasms are often described as intense, full-body experiences.
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5. Experiment!
Try different forms of stimulation—vibration, tempos, tongue vs. finger, etc.
Sex Educator and Award Winning Author Gigi EngleEngle shares this advice from Kenneth Play, a sex educator who has been teaching people to squirt for years:
“The giver inserts fingers into the vagina and applies pressure, rather than friction, to the front wall of the vagina (near [the] stomach) one and a half to three inches in (every womb owner is different).”
— How To Make Someone Squirt: A Step-By-Step Guide
There is no one-size-fits-all method, and the climax is just a cherry on top of the journey getting there. Enjoy discovering what works for your unique erotic temple.
Pause & Reflect
The best way to build a relationship with your body, identity and self-expression in a way that feels authentic to you is through reflection.
Mindfully approaching our knowledge, behaviors, feelings, and life story can make the difference between feeling unable or ashamed of expressing ourselves vs. sharing our unique selves fearlessly and authentically!
