The Importance of Sexual Wellness
MSB: You are so wholly embedded in the world of sexuality, a rather untraditional path, especially for someone raised in such a conservative community. Why were you inspired to head down this career path?
DB: God placed it on my soul at a very young age to assist people with navigating the unspoken world of human sexuality. I have simply been following His path for me and forging a way for others to see the value in this unfortunately taboo line of work.
MSB: Why do you think it's important to discuss the history of sex, sexuality and sexual freedoms?
DB: If/when we study sexual history, we learn how the shame of sex has been contrived and created. We learn that we were never supposed to be sexually repressed and that pleasure is our birthright. Learning about previous theories and ideologies around sex helps shape your own view and is peeling back the layers of societal rearing.
MSB: Do you have any interesting facts related to the history of sex or sex throughout history?
DB: It always fascinated me that corn flakes were used as a prescription for "female sexual hysteria" and a way to prevent masturbation. That explains why I never liked corn flakes.
MSB: Holy sh*t! I didn’t know that. I think there are a TON of wild misconceptions when it comes to sex and sexual wellness, especially when it comes to STIs. Do you know anything about the colloquial switch from "STD" to "STI"?
DB: Everything that is transferred through sexual contact does not rise to the definition of the disease, which connotes infirmary. Infection is more appropriate and practical. That's as far as my knowledge goes with that.
MSB: Hm, interesting. I think often, there are many moments when we are afraid to ask for what we want or communicate about any concerns or desires, especially with a new partner. Why do you think talking about our sex and sexual health is so important?
DB: I prefer using the term sexual wellness, but I think it's important because we are innately sexual beings, yet it is the one thing we get little to no progressive education on here in the US. This unusual imbalance of natural drive with lack of nurturing education has created a sexually inundated, yet sexually ignorant, culture. This has left most Americans very limited in the way we express and experience our sexuality, sexual pleasure and sexual acts, which is all extremely unfortunate.
