Practicing Tantric Sex

Tantric sex represents an important shift in the way we think about sex and sexuality.

Dr. Mitchell Tepper makes this distinction by proposing the two following models of sex...

The medical model of sex:
💚 Is performance-based
💚 Is friction-based
💚 Is mechanistic
💚 Takes orgasm as a general reflex
💚 Is focused on genital stimulation

The energetic model of sex:
💚 Is experienced as a ‘flow state’ or ‘being in the zone’
💚 Implies ‘timeliness’
💚 Allows for ‘egolessness’
💚 Is about ‘being natural’
💚 Happens while grounded in the moment

This means that tantric sex alleviates the pressures often put on partners during sexual intercourse by their own expectations and external narratives. Tantric sex invites you to focus on the moment and on the partner(s) you have with you at that. very. same. moment.

Here are some tantric sex (solo) practices that you can implement in your life if you’re not in a relationship:

💚 You can try chakra meditations and breathing exercises that foster your sexual energy and allow you to visualize it within your body, to feel it and to mold it.

💚 If you want to get more physical, you can try exploring touching yourself:
🟢Setting an intention for your session beforehand (pleasure, exploration)
🟢Making sure you are always very aware of your breath, making it a conscious, deep breath.
🟢 Starting by secondary erogenous zones
🟢 If you involve the genitals, try being very slow and aware of everything you do; try different strokes and types of touch
🟢 Make sure you keep breathing deeply and consciously as you go.
🟢 The goal is not to orgasm, but to connect with your sexual self

Above all, educate yourself. If you are interested in trying tantra in any form, for any reason, the first step is always educating yourself, and choosing the perspectives that best fit your needs!

The goal? To remain in said moment.