What is Edging?
Edging is the practice of stopping sexual stimulation when you’re about to reach an orgasm.
Something like sitting at the edge of orgasm but not “jumping” to it. This practice can be repeated multiple times during a sexual encounter. This practice can be performed during solo sex or partnered sex, with one or multiple partners.
What’s the purpose of edging?
Edging can serve different purposes for different people. Here are some:
Edging can be used as a way to increase the intensity of an orgasm.
Edging can be used as a way to last longer without orgasm, making the sexual encounter longer and reducing premature ejaculation.
Edging can be used as a way to explore your turn on’s and turn off’s
How to explore edging?
There are different ways to explore edging. Depending on whether you are doing it on your own or with a partner (or multiple partners).
Tips to Try Edging on Your Own
Set up the space.
Light a candle, lower the lights, put on some music that you like… maybe one or all of those options are good. Do what feels right for you, whatever makes your space more comfortable is good. Remember this will be the space for you to explore and expand your knowledge about yourself, what you like and what you don’t like doing.
Set the mood (in your body).
Maybe your thoughts are enough, maybe you need some inspiration from porn. The point of this step is to get your mood moving.
Start masturbating.
When arousal feels good, start touching yourself. Stroke your penis, stimulate your vulva or do whatever you know will make you come.
When you feel like you’re about to come, stop all kinds of stimulation.
Try to focus on how your body feels. Do you feel tense? How hard was it to stop? Were able to stop?
Repeat the process.
Try to build up arousal and pleasure again without going over the edge. Pay attention to the sensations in your body and experiment with different techniques or fantasies that enhance your pleasure. Continue the cycle of stimulating yourself and then stopping before reaching orgasm. Experiment with different durations of edging, such as stopping for a few seconds, minutes, or even longer. Notice how it affects your level of pleasure and anticipation.
Reflect on your experience.
After your edging session, take some time to reflect on your experience. How did it feel to delay your orgasm? Did you notice any changes in your level of pleasure or intensity? Did you discover any new sensations or preferences? Use this reflection to gain insights about your own pleasure and explore further in future sessions.
Tips to Explore Edging with a Partner
Communication is key.
Before engaging in edging with a partner or partners, it's important to have open and honest communication about boundaries, desires, and consent. Discuss your expectations, comfort levels, and any specific techniques or preferences you may have.
Establish a safe word.
Having a safe word is crucial during any sexual activity, including edging. This word or phrase can be used to communicate when someone wants to stop or take a break. Make sure everyone involved understands and respects the use of a safe word.
Experiment with different techniques.
With a partner or partners, you can explore various techniques to practice edging. This may involve manual stimulation, oral sex, or the use of sex toys. Take turns being the one who edges and the one who provides stimulation. Focus on building pleasure and arousal, then pause or switch activities when the person edging feels close to orgasm.
Explore power dynamics.
Edging can also be incorporated into power play or BDSM dynamics if that aligns with your interests and desires. This might involve one partner taking control and deciding when to stop or continue stimulation. Again, clear communication and consent are essential in these scenarios.
Enjoy the journey together.
Edging can be a thrilling and intimate experience for all involved. Embrace the anticipation, build the sexual tension, and enjoy the journey of exploring pleasure with your partner or partners. Remember that the main goal is to increase pleasure, deepen connection, and discover new sensations.
Remember, edging is a personal and subjective experience, and what works for one person may not work for another. It's essential to listen to your body, communicate your needs and boundaries, and always prioritize consent and mutual enjoyment. Have fun exploring this technique and discovering the pleasures it can offer you.
