Friday Five: The Year of Break Throughs
What are sexual taboos and why do they exist in our culture?
“Taboos often revolve around topics deemed too uncomfortable, controversial, or embarrassing to discuss openly. However, ignoring these issues can have detrimental effects on individuals' sexual health and relationships”
— Breaking Down Sexual Taboos, My Sex Bio Blog
Keep reading to better understand and normalize 5 common sexual taboos.
Period Sex
Sexual play during menstruation is often frowned upon or seen as “dirty.” However, it’s normal, healthy and may even alleviate pain from cramps and bloating. Yes, it can be messy but blood is a part of every one of us and no more icky than sweat or cum. You can get pregnant during this time, so please use protection if this is something you’re avoiding.
2. Voyeurism & Exhibitionism
The act of watching another person(s) self-pleasuring or having sex is a common desire and totally safe when done with the consent of everyone involved. If you feel hesitant to bring it up, suggest watching erotic content together first to see how everyone feels.
3. Ethical Porn
“Pornography that is made consensually treats performers with respect and pays performers and filmmakers fairly for their work. Ethical porn validates the needs, boundaries, and curiosities of the performers.”
— Sex Therapist Kamil Lewis, AMFT
Companies like women-run Bellesa.co are helping to create a healthier porn industry by sharing realistic sex, paying their performers well and sharing sex education directly on their sites. Read about how they are working to transform the bias around female sexuality through erotic ethical content.
4. Sex Sans Climax
Climax is not the final destination! We repeat—sex is NOT just about having an orgasm! There is nothing wrong with you or your partner(s) if you cannot get there. Having a consensual, safe and exciting experience can be just as fulfilling. Don’t feel like you have to fake it! Being real with your partner will allow you to explore what works for both of you.
5. Casual Sex / One Night Stands
Good sex is a pleasurable experience. Why else would orgasms exist? Although you must be cautious when sharing your sexual energy with strangers/people you might never see again, this is at your discretion. Own your agency over your body and pleasure! Here are important rules to keep in mind:
Remember, nothing that you desire is wrong if it’s a true, honest feeling or curiosity. We hope that you continue to explore your sexuality safely and without judgment.
