Setting Sexual Goals for 2023
New year, new me? It’s routine that every time we get to the end of a year and the beginning of a new one, we start thinking of what we want our lives to be. We start setting ourselves goals like going to the gym, eating healthier, going out more, etc. But, do we ever do this with our sex lives?
How was your sex life in 2022? Was it pleasurable? Are you satisfied with it? If so, what can you do to keep it this way. If not, what goals do you need to set to spearhead some change in your sexuality?
We know that reflection is a motor for action—and intentional actions take you a long way—so here go a few questions to ask yourself to set sexual goals for this new year!
Before you dive into the sexy prompts, take a moment to reflect on the following:
How was your 2022?
Did you deal with any big challenges? Did your life get disrupted by any?
What are your small and big wins of the year?
When going through our prompts, remember to be compassionate with yourself. Life can always get in the way, and you’re being brave by just showing up for it every day.
Myself:
Looking back…
How was my sex life in 2022? If I was to describe it in one word, I would say it was…
What was my favorite hot memory of 2022?
Did I try something new in my sex life in 2022?
Read “Sexual Fantasy Sexploration”
How was my self-esteem in 2022? Why?
Read “How Mirror Work Can Improve Your Relationship With Your Body and Upgrade Your Sex Life”
In my relationships, was I surrounded by people who made me feel good and lifted me up?
Read “10 Red Flags That You Shouldn’t Tolerate in a Relationship”
Moving forward…
What do I need to let go of this year? What are things that aren’t good for me? (People, dynamics, places)
Do I want to have more or less sex this year? Why?
What’s my relationship to solo pleasure?
What can I do this year to see myself in a better light? Can I like myself a little more?
Am I aiming to have the relationship structure that best serves my needs?
Read “What Does ENM on Tinder Mean?”
With a long-term partner:
How is the connection between us?
How good are we at communicating with each other? How can we get better at it?
How can I help them be a better version of themselves? How can they help me?
Read “Friday Five: The Key to Fulfilling Relationships”
Am I happy with the amount of sex we have?
Am I happy with the types of sex we have?
Do I feel comfortable telling them if there’s something I don’t like doing? If not, why? How can I find ways to communicate this?
Read “I Have No Sex Drive and My Husband is Mad”: Advice with an Erotic Blueprint Coach™”
Is there anything new I want to try? Is anything new they want to try?
How can I introduce this new thing I want to try into the conversation? What do I know about it?
Read “Tips to Explore the Unknown in Bed: How to Talk About Trying Something New”
Am I happy with our relationship structure? (Monogamy, non-monogamy).
Read “How to Start the Conversation About ENM?”
Read “Challenges And Benefits of Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)”
We hope you approach these questions and resources as it best serves you. We advise you to take a pen and paper and try to answer all these questions. Writing can be an easy way to find out feelings that aren’t always at the top of your head. Allow yourself to ramble if needed. And if writing feels too much, try telling yourself the answers out loud.
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