5 Hot Ways to Have Non-Penetrative Sex
The Takeaways:
What is Non-Penetrative Sex?
What does Non-Penetrative Sex Include?
5 Hot Ways to Have Non-Penetrative Sex.
3 Tips to Enjoy Non-Penetrative Sex.
Can I get an STI from Non-Penetrative Sex?
Is Non-Penetrative Sex Considered Sex?
What is Non-Penetrative Sex?
Non-penetrative sex is any sexual activity that doesn’t include penetration.
There’s no simple particular reason why a person would choose to have non-penetrative sex; it can be a preference, or it can respond to physical or mental restrictions or personal boundaries.
Some people might have medical conditions that make penetrative sex painful, like vaginismus, or they might have had negative experiences in the past that make it challenging for them to have non-penetrative sex; this doesn’t mean pleasure and intimacy are out of reach.
“There’s this awesome word called outercourse, and outercourse can really be just as intimate, pleasurable, fun, important, and bad as intercourse. I think it’s important for folks to dig deeper into this concept.”
What does Non-Penetrative Sex Include?
While some people may think that without penetration there’s no such thing as “sex”, we have some news for them…non-penetrative sex exists and it’s as good as (and sometimes better than) the penetrative version of it!
5 Hot Ways to Have Non-Penetrative Sex:
Clitoral Stimulation
For vulva owners, clitoral stimulation can be the number 1 reason for orgasms as this organ serves no other purpose than pleasure. The clitoris has thousands of tender nerve endings that when stimulated correctly can lead to mindblowing orgasms. For this, you can use your hands, a sex toy/vibrator, or your mouth.
Mutual Masturbation
Masturbating solo or at the same time with your partner can be a pleasurable experience and also a learning moment in which you show your partner how you like to be touched, learn how they like to be touched and try to do it yourself. This is a perfect moment to communicate your desires.
Oral Sex
No need to consider this as a foreplay activity, oral sex is “sex” on its own. Performed patiently, oral sex can be more pleasurable than any penetrative act. This type of sexual act is especially pleasurable for vulva owners because the tongue can stimulate the clitoris better than vaginal penetration with a penis.
Frottage Sex
This is a non-penetrative sexual act that involves rubbing different erogenous zones together. Erogenous zones: areas of the body that are sensitive to sexual stimulation. There are erogenous zones that are common as nipples, anus, g-spot, the mons pubis, but you can also try to find your unique erogenous zones with your partner!
Dry Humping
This sexual act involves rubbing or grinding your genitals against your partner’s body or genitals. Dry Humping can lead to orgasms, and as it also can happen while one or both partners are completely or partly clothed, it can be pleasurable without the risk of pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Whether you do it while clothed or naked, dry humping creates the kind of friction you need to get there😏
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3 Tips to Enjoy Non-Penetrative Sex
Communication
This is key to any sexual activity and it's always good to remember that telling your partner what you like and how to do it is an amazing key to a fulfilling sex life. So whether you use your words, your own hands, their hands or a toy, communicate what you want.
Get creative
Non-penetrative sex doesn’t need to follow penetrative sex standards so… let your imagination fly and remember that two brains can imagine further. Also, this helps build trust in your relationship.
Get off the bed
Yes, having sex in your bed can be comfortable but trying out sex in another place of your house can be more exciting. It’s definitely worth trying.
Can I get an STI from Non-Penetrative Sex?
Yes, you can. The lack of penetration doesn’t protect you against sexually transmitted infections. For example, dry humping while naked can spread certain STDs such as herpes and HPV, even if you don’t swap fluids.
To prevent getting an STI is essential to use barrier methods such as male condoms, female condoms or dental dams (these are very thin and flexible pieces of latex that can be used to perform oral sex and dry humping while naked).
Is Non-Penetrative Sex Considered Sex?
There’s no universal academy of sex that dictates what falls under the act of sex and what doesn’t. Sex is a very personal experience; what is considered sex to some people can be considered just foreplay to others.
As a society, we’ve put a lot of emphasis on penetrative sex, many times even portraying it as the most preferable type of sex to have or the most pleasurable one. We need to move away from this narrative as it creates sex scripts that limit people’s sexual experiences.
Every person gets to decide what pleasurable sex is and feels like to them, and proper sex education must include outercourse as a valid way of having sex.
